8 Ways to Maintain
a Long-Distance Friendship
By Aubrey Warrick
Traveling for a living makes creating and keeping, friendships quite a challenge. I have friends all over the states and I find that the friendships that are truly meaningful have 8 things in common. It definitely takes effort on both parties' behalf to maintain the friendship, but it should not feel like a chore. I genuinely look forward to doing and sharing all, that is listed below:
1. SCHEDULE PHONE DATES
My gals and I LOVE coffee! and with todays technology, its so ideal to set up FaceTime or Skype and just sip away on a Saturday morning while the puppies or kiddos play in the background.
2. PLAN AN ANNUAL MEET UP
The one thing all of us look forward to is an annual trip somewhere away from our homes that we all agree upon and meet for 5 or so days.
we can keep it affordable with AirBnB, sharing rooms or beds and cooking for each other. Heck, half the time we are hiking or just cuddled up talking under the stars in a remote location. We never let a year go by without this long weekend planned!
3. BECOME PEN PALS
One of my favorites is dropping random hand written cards or postcards on my travels for a fun surprise in the mail to your bestie. especially if you know they're having a rough week. I am most definitely old school and carry stamps in my wallet! Whats more fun than getting something (other than bills) in the mail!
4. HAVE A CONVERSATION BALANCE
While you may jump on a quick phone call with your gal-pal during a drive to work just to get the chaos of what you are about to walk into, off your chest, or to let out some steam about your neighbor keeping you up at all hours last night, don't forget not only should you talk as much as you listen, but you should remember that the strongest friendships are focused on both heavy and light news. If you start using your friend solely to complain about your significant other, you're going to weaken your bond. They'll likely stop picking up the phone if they know that you're just going to vent for the 10th time that month.
While leaning on your friends for advice is important, make sure that you're giving them the time to discuss their own life news, as well. Also, as much as you depend on your friend for life guidance, remember to also bring up topics that you'll both be able to relate to. Did you both watch last nights episode of Dance Moms or Handmaids Tale? Discuss that. Adulthood has its rough moments, but good friends always make sure to keep it light and fun when necessary.
5. SHARE MUSIC PLAY LISTS
At the beginning of each of our annual girls trips, I love asking the group what their current favorite songs are. I enjoy creating a music mix tailored to, not only our oldies but goodies, but new music that we all can share and expand upon. Its so nostalgic for that song to pop on the radio post trip, and you're immediately whisked back to that particular experience with your gal-pals. It's also a fun way to expand your lear candy horizons.
6. KEEP YOUR JEALOUSY IN CHECK
When miles apart exist between you and your besties, its easy to let jealousy plant a seed in your heart when you see them getting engaged, buying and decorating their new homes, adopting puppies and posting fun filled weekend photos with their local friends. Its so important to understand that you possess an unshakeable bond between each other and support and celebration for the opposites triumphs is necessary to keep your friendship growing. Your time always comes and its such a rare and beautiful thing when your closest friends, near or far celebrate you to the fullest extent!
7. OFFER TO VISIT
Even if an annual trip to meet somewhere remotely isn't exactly doable for that year, offer to visit! Who doesn't love hosting a weekend visit to sip coffee, enjoy wine, indulge in your local towns hidden gems with your long-distance bestie. Plus its more intimate and affordable. Doing this also offers a sense of empathy for each other to understand and see how your daily life actually is. Visiting each others places offers a wealth of growth in your friendship!
8. BE ABLE TO PICK UP WHERE YOU LEFT OFF
This tip is the most important. LIFE HAPPENS! Family time, work engagements, tough situations... time fly's by the older we get. Its so necessary to be able to simply pick up where your friendship has left off. All of us in my group of long-distance friends has been guilty of pulling away from the group in some form or fashion. We love each other harder in the difficult times, but grand each other space necessary to figure out the situation and wait patiently until they're ready to come around and share. being able to simply pick up where you left off is a very special trait to learn and execute.
-SOMETHING JUST LIKE THIS - The Chainsmokerss & Coldplay
-MY SILVER LINING - First Aid Kit
- THATS MY GIRL - Fifth Harmony
- PEANUT BUTTER JELLY - Galantis
- OCEANS AWAY - Arizona
- SCARS TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL - Allesia Cara
- GORGEOUS - X Embassadors
- INSIDE THE LINES - Mike Perry
- WAVES - Mr. Probz
- PARELLEL LINES - DVBBS & CMC$
All Girl Destinations
A Note To My Long-Distance Friendships
To my many friendships across the globe; I cherish each and every one of you!! Whether I have known you since we were little or I met you a month ago on a trip, or you are one of the amazing people in between, I absolutely cherish the unique qualities you bring to our friendship. I may miss sticking a card or two in the mail, and I tend to retreat into an introverted state of mind for a few weeks, but I know you are always there, waiting patiently. Thank you for waiting for me and for always being so willing to pick up where we left off. Thank you for loving me in my rawest forms and for supporting my crazy ideas. I would not be the woman I am without the true beautiful friendships in my life like ours. From the deepest part of my soul, thank you for being so willing to reciprocate the efforts to keep our friendship vibrant!
- Love always,